I agree that it is so vital to protect our individual selves once we marry. And I think this can be a challenge. Now I am thinking of how married couples tend to start looking alike. This seems in some sense a physical manifestation of a more metaphysical blending, no? And I so love the idea of a continued wooing; of romance big and small, of get-to-know-you conversations, of unexpected gestures. Something for all of us to strive for in our own lives, no?Thanks, Sam!